What I Wish I Knew Growing Up
Growing up as an immigrant here in Canada, I was faced with constant daily reminders of how I was different from my classmates. If I only knew then what I know now, I would have understood how these differences made me unique and one of a kind. Instead of putting myself down, I would have honored myself, and realized my gifts and talents. Children should be honored, celebrated for who they are, and guided to the knowledge that each person brings their unique skills to the world.
In a room full of adults, we are not surprised to find that each of us has different likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, and individual styles. Often, we don’t think about how the same is true for our children, and then we fall into the comparison trap. Notice your child’s strengths and unique personality and celebrate them! Appreciate their strengths and tell them…all the time, not just when they accomplish something grand. Each human being desires to be seen, known, and celebrated not for what we accomplish but for who we are.
Find the good in the mistakes and weaknesses and teach them that no one is good at everything; we are all extraordinary in our unique way. Think of a child’s vulnerabilities positively. A stubborn child will have a strong character. A child who often gets teary-eyed may be sensitive; a child who is into everything is full of energy and curiosity! Each child has something exceptional to give to this world. The universe needs diverse gifts that all of us bring. How would we survive otherwise? How often do we celebrate what these fantastic human beings have brought to this planet?
Remember, your child is so much more than what you see on the surface. They are messy, beautiful, wild, compassionate human beings.
How are you going to celebrate your child today?